With all the talk about health care and health care insurance in the news, we should add to the discussion the role love relationships play in health and disease. There is growing scientific evidence to back up the claim that love is good for your emotional and physical well-being. And there is growing scientific evidence that some of the things we pass off as love are bad for your health, too.
According to C. Norman Shealy, M.D. and
Caroline Myss, Ph.D., love of others and being loved are key factors in
improving the immune system, adding to life expectancy and creating overall
happiness. Their research shows that
even bad habits like overeating and smoking have less of an impact on those who
have loving support systems.11
A research project conducted by James
House at the University of Michigan Research Center clearly demonstrated that
doing good deeds pays off. Those people
who did volunteer work on a regular basis and who interacted with others in a
caring and compassionate manner, dramatically increased life expectancy, and
overall vitality.
At Harvard University, a well known
experiment conducted by psychologist David McClelland found an increase in an
anti-body that helps ward off respiratory infections, immunoglobulin-A (IGA),
can be generated simply by watching a film of Mother Teresa working amongst
India’s sick and impoverished.
People “in love” have fewer colds. The unconditional love that pet owners
receive from their animals helps lessen depression. In one study of Israeli men, high cholesterol
and high blood pressure were less important to health than the quality of love
in their marriages. Individuals who have close intimacy with others have higher
IGA antibodies and less serious illness. Children whose parents love them
unconditionally thrive, have good esteem and more zest for life.
Emotional health is improved as well. Studies have shown over and over again that
caring about others induces feelings of warmth, calm, and happiness, which
significantly reduces depression. In
fact, a study by Allan Luks found that 90 percent of a group of volunteers
reported a “high” from their experience.
Love is the most cost-effective medical
insurance policy and the cheapest medicine there is. And there is no end to its supply. In fact, the more love you put out, the more
it generates. And it attracts love to
itself. It generates joy, happiness,
serenity, esteem, vibrancy, kindness, appreciation, respect, laughter,
generosity, tolerance, tenderness, open-mindedness, respect, care, affection,
goodness, service, appreciation, compassion, awe, wonder, bliss, trust… all of
which have been proven scientifically to be good for your health.
It takes only one conscious act of love to
get the healing juices of love flowing.
And it does not even matter if the other person is conscious of your
conscious act. All that matters is the
willingness to put love out there. So do
it!
(11. Lama Surya Das, Awakening the Buddha Within, 225.)
This is an excerpt from Love's Way by Dr. Brenda Schaeffer